YES, i am! I don't care what people think of me as well! I think people throw away their virginity without thinking.
Guy : I got laid last night! Me: who with? Guy: some chick. i spiked her drink. Me: okay....... That's fine. I'm sure that's a decision you won't regret in years to come! Guy: Of course not! Sex is awesome! Me: *sigh* I'm surrounded by idiots!
I don't think sex is horrible or anything though. I'm just gonna wait until it's with the right person.
Heh, my comments are going to conflict a little with some things said here. Feel free to agree or disagree and reply.
Alrighty, first of all I personally do not think sex is just a lust or breeding thing. Having sex is an extremely intimate thing where the partners in a way merge and become one, mentally thinking. It is a very special and close time full of acceptance, trust, and love.
And yes, it is also a lust thing. Usually is. And I see no problem with that if it is combined with the other things I just said. Also itís sometimes not about lust at all, but that closeness and love.
Thatís why I think you better be making sure itís with the right person though. I personally think that sleeping around with every person you can is wrong, but to each their own.
Thatís why it is better to marry before sex, then you know you are with the right one. Although, that sometimes backfires because some people are so desperate for sex that they marry the wrong person and for the wrong reasons. Plus some married couples still commit adultery. But if the person who was cheated on really thought they were with the right person, deep in their heart knew, and they were betrayed, itís not their fault that the slept with the wrong one. They genuinely thought they were the right person and itís very tragic when something like that happens.
That being said, people shouldnít be having sex unless they can accept the possible consequences. Enough said.
It is horribly sad that people are going around sleeping with one another due to peer pressure, especially those in high school. I remember how my friends in high school were at competition with one another as to who could lose their virginity first. And how people are made to feel ugly and unwanted if they were still virgins. Losing your virginity is certainly not something to be taken lightly or on impulse.
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin, not at all. And in my eyes, if done Ďproperlyí, there is nothing wrong with not being a virgin either.
Oh, and for those people that have been rapedÖ no matter what they did, you are still virgin at heart. *hugs for you*
Also, there's a massive difference, I think, between 'making love' and 'having sex' (or '[profanity!]ing...'...). More females are interested in the former than males, and as such in many situations each person will consider what's happening very differently. While a girl might say or think "I made love to my boyfriend last night; it was beautiful!", the guy might think "I had sex with that girl I'm goin' out wiv last n8; ive had better".
Of course, the guy would probably lie about this to the girl (not that he'd NEED to; most girls are already wrapped up in their own delusional fantasy worlds where their jerkish manly boyfriends genuinely love and care for them as people more than bodies, and she doesn't need the guy to PROVE this in any way because she just KNOWS it's true because she wants it to be...).
I also find it interesting that you think what you do, but not especially surprising.
Though some things interested me particularly... What they are is beyond the scope of this response though! o_O
Anyway, to repeat the first thing I said: WHY didn't you answer the question? >_>
I am curious and would like to know that, if not the answer to the initial question!
well i agree with a lot of it, but at the same time, i see sex as a less personal thing and more of a physical thing used for entertainment rather than some kind of bond.
im not saying that it cant happen or anything, im just saying its rare. most couples are shallow that way...
then the other thing, people who get married JUST to have sex... its so damned common. mostly its girls who dont want to do it until after marriage, so the guy bides his time and agrees to marry her after making her THINK she is in love with him. its so pathetic... can you imagine how many peoples lives that ruins? ugh, it just disgusts me. most of the world now, seems to revolve around people TRYING to 'get some'. if the arent, the are an outcast.
but the marriage one shits me the most. girls are usually pretty naive too. its a thing that other guys can sense but girls never do. and if you tell them what the guy is planning, then they back up and say 'you dont know him the way i do!'.
its so sad....
but you do raise some interesting points. you didnt answer the question though.... however im fairly certain what the answer is.
I just don't see a purpose to it, A, unless I'm SERIOUSLY committed to the person. heck, I don't think I would even be that physical in any other relation I get from now on... it only seems to lead to regret.
Like, a week ago I was so angry, because my ex approached me and started to tell me that "An emotionless fuck would do you well" and it just got on my nerves, because he was the one with the messed up life because of his choices, while I have been doing very well for myself. Honestly, at this point in time, I'm not even seriously pursuing a boyfriend relation, and not for lack of attention... I've actually been complaining to my best friends about all the guys who ask me out, or hit on me who I DON'T want to date... I don't see a reason just to date someone to get touched... it seems stupid xD
I'm more of the "impress me with your mind and abilities outside of sexuality, and I'll consider going to the movies with you" type of a person.
xD I honestly would be so amused if I get some relation in the future and they break up with me because I don't touch them enough, or don't have sex. I would laugh, and be glad to get that guy far away from me. Yeees.
And back to the sex topic... I know far too many of my girlfriends who seriously regret giving up their virginity... so I don't care enough to try and lose it myself just because the girls around the college are all having sex 'n stuff. I'm my own person; I can make my own decisions: they don't have to be made by a crowd.
Such opinions are good to have, yes! And it's truly great and admirable that you're a virgin despite the apparent ease at which you could surely lose your virginity (though regardless of what specific people may say, it'd be pretty easy for most girls of moderate-or-better attractiveness to lose their virginity if they wanted to... >_>.
I'm also bothered that I might get into a relationship which'd fail because of my lack of desire to have sex... I mean, I can imagine a lot of people leaving their partner because they don't give them enough/any sex (I mean, a lot of those Typical Girls seem to dump their temporary boyfriends because he's 'bad in bed' (why would that matter or even be *noticeable* in a relationship with any EMOTION?) or because he's a "bad kisser"... psht.).
But I'd never want to be with anyone like that anyway. It'd be a shallow, shallow relationship indeed if sex was even a FACTOR.
Anyway, two questions for you:
1. Would you only go out with a guy you'd got to 'better than good friend' status with over time, or would you go out with a guy you'd known for less than a month?
2. Would you ever go out with an ugly guy? o_O
(Also, though barely related at all, I think that "let's go and see a film!" kind of dates are the kind typical of shallow relationships! I mean, you go together to see a film and are physically doing something together the whole time, technically, but isn't it so GREAT because you don't actually have to TALK to eachother?!? Yep, you can be done with the formality of meeting eachother for an outing together without any of the annoying and tedious 'conversation', and you still probably get the sex afterwards!!! It's brilliant!!!11!1
people that would drop you because you're bad physically aren't worth the time, anyway They're the types who would get bored and start to cheat, most likely.
Now, the questions:
A. I actually would date a guy I didn't know very well, but it would be a no touching sort of date. Like a "let's go to that coffee shop and get to know each other's minds better" sort of thing. I need to know a guy really well before I do almost anything, now. It's a personal choice, because it makes more sense to me that way. O_o
2. Honestly, if I thought the guy was ugly, I don't think I would go out with him unless he was absolutely brilliant in other categories. The reason is because besides the fact that if I married him, I would have to look at him everyday, his genes would go onto my children. For that same reason, I wouldn't date anyone with any sort of major medical problem. Call it shallow, but it ensures my future line.
Of course, I have noticed over the years that I find people more attractive based on their minds. Someone who is average looking suddenly becomes better looking when they have an extremely coherent mind, that I can converse with.
Yeah, movie dates are stupid, really. They're only good if you arrive way early, so you can talk the whole time before... albeit, they're good first dates if you don't touch, and you don't know what the person'll be like. My friends introduced me to their guyfriend through us watching a movie together, which was good, because I got to see him and do a bit of talking first as opposed to sitting down first thing at Starbucks and having that deep three hour conversation. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE the deep conversation, but sometimes you know that a person isn't even good enough for that xD